Alternative Greeting Questions, Phrase and Statements To Say To A Grieved Parent Who Lost Their Children

Alternative Greeting Questions, Phrase, and Statements To Say To A Grieved Parent Who Lost Their Children

Alternative Greeting, Phrases, and Statements to Say to a Grieved Parent Who Loss Their Children

Written by Naomi Johnson

You must keep in mind there are questions you should avoid with parents who lose their child when going through emotional turmoil. Learn how to express yourself when greeting a bereaved parent by saying alternative greeting questions, phrases or statements. You have to be careful how to greet a bereaved parent. Yes, we use common greeting, phrases and acknowledgment questions to a parent who lost their child. We must understand as a parent who never loses their child/ parents who are not close to their child or people who never had any children need to know how to address grieved parents. We do not want to use any trigger questions, phrases or statement to upset them because they are already dealing with enough move swings. Friends and family of a grieving parent must not set their loved ones in a suicidal state because they are already combating with stress and depression.  Losing a child is an enormous load of pressure a grieved parent have to battle within their mundane life.

We must keep in mind grieved parents life is not normal. Therefore, what used to be common to a grieved parent is no longer common. How are you doing is a standard greeting question but not so common anymore to a grieved parent. Every grieved parent are different.  Some of them do not mind the common greeting questions. You must watch the body movement when using the question that was stated above. Respect the grieved parent’s wishes as you want someone to respect yours. I am sure nonbereaved parents have questions or statements will upset them.

Please do not be selfish, incentive, stubborn, ignore or let your ego get in the way when addressing a grieved parent.  Let’s not put them in an awkward position. Learn how to express yourself in a nonoffensive manner. Here are some alternative greeting questions you might be able to use to replace, how are you doing?

1. What are you doing?

2. What is happening?

3. What’s up?

4. How are you holding up?

5.Greetings

6. How do you do?

       (Yes, this is a fragment and informal question but okay to use)

7. How goes it?

8. How is everything coming along?

9. How is your well being?

10. What's going on or  What's new?

11. What are you up to today?

12. What have you been up to?

13. Tell me about your day.

14. Are you feeling well/good today?

15.Hi 

( The word hi along is a good standard greeting without saying How are you doing)

16. Peace and Blessing

17. How is it going?

18. How is your day going?

19. How is your day?

20. How's life?

21. How are things?

22. It's good to see you or hear from you.

23. Good to see you or Nice to see you

24. Long time no see or It's been a while

25. How have you been?

25. How is your health?

(This is an excellent question to use if you are concern about the grieve parent health, instead of, how are you doing) As far as how are you doing concerning a bereaved parent mental state of mind is not a right question. Be directing not vague when using the question. How are you doing?

26. How are you feeling today?

You must be careful to say common greeting statement/phrases when dealing with birthdays, holidays or time of the days greeting. Non grieved parents/people without children need to know losing a child is a significant major change/ obstacle that the grieving parents must face. Therefore, if we say we love our friend a family we should change our word usage. Like happy, merry, good or your special day. Nonbereaved parent must understand there is nothing good, happy, special or joyous about losing a child in a bereaved parent life. We must be mindful every grieved parent is different. Please do not compare or assume that the words good, happy, merry did not upset the other grieved parent and it should not upset another. Every grieved parent responds differently.

How to tell the difference to a grieved parent response watch out for their body language, voice tone or if they say to you that they do not like the statement. Respect their wishes. Do not ask them, “when I can use happy, merry, special or good words again.” You cannot rush them back to what the worldview as a normal life, since your life is still normal because you have your child. Think about it; you do not like to change your way of thinking or asking a question or walking on eggshells.  Do you think a grieved parent like to feel the way they are or trying to imagine spending the rest of their life without their child? Keep in thought they did not ask for the permanent change in their life, but it happens. Once again respect the grieved parent’s wishes like you want someone to respect yours.

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Instead of saying Happy Birthday, Merry Christmas to a bereaved parent consider using these alternative statements.

1. I am thinking about you on this day.

2. My thoughts are with you.

3. We are thinking about you.

4. You are always in my thoughts on days like this or today.

5. My feelings are with you on this day.

6. I give you my heartfelt feeling on days such as this one.

7. I am thinking of you on your birthday, this holiday or on this occasion.

8. I am thinking about you.

9. I send you my love on this day or your day (birthday)?

10. I give you my love on this day.

11. You are in my thoughts, or you are always in my thoughts.

12. I send you my hugs and kisses on this day.

13. I send you my birthday wishes.

14. You are forever in my thoughts.

15. You are in my thoughts for the holidays.

16. I wish all is well or be well.

17. I love you.

18. Have I told you I am thinking about you always?

19. I am calling or texting you to tell you I am thinking about you or love you.

20.Morning

21.Evening

22.Greetings

23.Night

24. I am checking up on you to send you good thoughts and wishes.

In conclusion, learn how to communicate effectively with a bereaved parent and filter your words correctly.  Please do not assume that one statement is suitable for all bereaved parent. Please be mindful that we are all different individual with diverse interest, emotions, personality, traits, views, mindset and understanding. The above questions/ phrases will help you learn how to communicate with a bereaved parent without any unpleasant reaction or response.  Non bereave parent need to know how to curve their questions and making it conducive for the parent. Be mindful that grieved parents are insensitive and vulnerable.  You should monitor what comes out of your mouth and treat them with love and care like your will do to a child.  When we around children, parents, and adults you look up to.  You are watchful what words you use with respect. If, you do not know what word usage to use, "You should ask the grieved parent what word do you like for me to use." or "What word usage will make you feel comfortable". or  "I will use the phrase you want me to use because I do not want to say anything to upset you anymore that you are". Also, nonbereaved parent or people who never had children let’s not being foolish, selfish and allow your pride to get in your way. You will want someone to respect your wishes, feelings and other emotions. 

Do not try to convert a grieved parent in your way of think or they should think. Nor should you put pressure on a grieved parent or become aggressive, overbearing, dismissed to them. Most of all, do not put a set time when a grieved parent should stop grieving over their child. Learn about how to deal with grieved parents or do research what lamented parents faces when losing a child. Do not be a fool and thinking of being selfish, cruel, disrespectful, impatient, egotistical and displaying hard love will help a grieved parent to heal quickly or lessen their grieving. Adverse behavioral actions will only cause negative emotions reactions, withdrawn, friction, bitterness, and disownment. Use wisdom and allow that to lead your word that comes out of your mouth in the direction of humbleness. You must understand you can not force a grieving parent to be happy or joyful because they just lost a part of their soul, self, and spirit of happiness; which is their child they carry in their womb. When a grieving mother expresses her deep pain that is undescribed, she or he does not think the contrary. They are living in reality, and that is not anything negative about your pain a grieving parent is enduring. It is easy for a person who does not lose their child to look at the glass full than empathy because they are still with child. A grieving parent cannot get over their child withing in one week or years; especially if they spend 17 years or more with their child. 

Quotes by Naomi Johnson (Soulality)

A fool is stuck in his selfish world and does not want to learn because he thinks his way of thinking is the correct way and trying to convert a person mind to feel like them. He/she does not choose to learn new ways to better him or herself. He rejects new knowledge set before him and become blind with personal pride. Therefore foolish, hurtful, spiteful things flow from the heart without self-control of their mouth with catastrophic word that tears down the soul/spirit. The fool does not care about a broken-hearted person but their feelings. Next thing you know the communication level is filtered with bitterness.

A wise man sits, listen, learn, observe and embrace the knowledge that was set before him. Then take the information to build and grow to become a better communicator with others who are in need of instructions. And his wisdom will operate with love, patient, understanding; self-control of passion that will take him/her a long way. His/here conversation is sweet as honey because he/she was mindful of other people feelings and was able to filter his word with humbleness. He/she does not allow selfishness and pride to blind him/her to see that truth of a hurt wounded soul/spirit that is crying for help or thirsty for knowledge. 

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